Accept, Forgive and Love unconditionally
Accept, Forgive and Love unconditionally. This is a sure way to be Happy. How often do we let our day be ruined because of what someone says? Or because we feel that there is a disagreement, conflict or because “no one really understands me?” Perhaps every other day!
We become upset enough to become miserable for hours. Ultimately, this translates into a day being spoilt, relationships being affected and so much of negativity. Who suffers the most? It is we who suffer. Worth it? No!
It is best to understand and accept that people will not always agree with us or understand us or our perspective. We cannot force anyone to see eye to eye. Instead, why not understand them? Step in their shoes. Try to walk their walk. Their Life experiences may be different from ours. They are entitled to their own thoughts, as we are to ours. We don’t have to agree with them, they don’t have to agree with us, but that doesn’t mean that we become upset or snappy because they don’t endorse what we say. Let us be tolerant enough to recognise that each one of us is different. I am not you, and you are not me.
Let us give others the benefit of doubt even though their words or behaviour might be hurtful. It doesn’t justify their actions, of course. But they probably have their own battles to win. Who knows? Maybe someone is depressed, someone could have lost a job, someone may be sick. We all have challenges to face! A little kindness never hurts. Let us change the way we look at others.
If we begin to understand people, a whole new world opens! Wonderful things happen:
- It opens the door to Acceptance. We learn to accept people, their thoughts and behaviour.
- With understanding and Acceptance, comes empathy – one begins to feel the pain of others, which in turn may result in action-oriented kindness.
- It also helps us in letting go and Forgiving them. If we accept and empathise with people, it is easier for us to Forget, Forgive and Move On! Forgiveness is the most beautiful gift that we can give to others and ourselves – it brings peace to both the receiver and the giver. It lightens the heart. It is magical. Carrying a grudge in our hearts is like being pricked and hurt by thousands of thorns all the time!
Let us learn to love people unconditionally
Let us learn to love people unconditionally, without ‘ifs and buts’. No one is perfect. Are you? Let’s not become judgemental or derisive. Let us focus on the strengths and the good in others. Let us appreciate and celebrate their uniqueness. It’s just a matter of perception. Tweak it!
All these positive emotions create a win-win situation for everyone. It has a positive impact not only on us, but also on others. We can brighten someone’s day with our positivity or even motivate them to think and behave differently. We ourselves become calmer, kinder and more compassionate. It is a sure way to being Happy!